Real Life Minimalists: Jessica
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This week we hear from Jessica, who tells us how decluttering can lead to so many positive changes in life.
Hi, I’m Jessica. My favorite mantra is “less is more.” I am truly a minimalist at heart. If I don’t love it or it isn’t useful, then it doesn’t deserve to take up space in my home. Hello, Thrift Store. :)
I became a Life Coach to empower people and coach them to possibility and truth so they can create a life they love. Whether that is with their home, relationship, finances or goals. Clutter isn’t just physical stuff it’s also mental and emotional. The less “clutter” we have around us, the clearer and more deliberate we can be about living a life that supports who we were created to be. My passion is helping people gain the momentum to move forward and intentionally take action in their lives.
In 2006 I met my husband and started living the American dream; working more and spending more. When my daughter was born in 2011 I started to weigh the cost of owning so much stuff. A quote that struck me was, “money is replaceable, and time is lost forever.” I wanted to stay home with my daughter as children are little only so long. I wasn’t a reader at the time, but when I would get home from working as a nurse on the evening shift and I couldn’t sleep…I started to read. The first book I read was “The Joy of Less.” Thank you, Miss Minimalist! I then read everything I could get my hands on regarding simplifying, minimalism, downsizing, decluttering and owning less. As I read I acted. Each day I would go through drawers, closets and cupboards to decide what really mattered to me. If it didn’t serve a purpose or spark joy, I released it. With each trip to the thrift store, I felt lighter and had so much more energy and clarity.
When we clear away the clutter, we clear away limiting beliefs that keep us stuck year after year. I have seen the positive impact that clearing the clutter has had on so many areas of my life. Simplifying and downsizing doesn’t happen overnight. The great thing about that is when we do things slow and steady, they tend to last.
My husband and I started paying off one bill at a time and eventually sold my dream equestrian facility we had built. We became crystal clear with our goals to become financially free. Let’s just say material belongings and debt didn’t win. Yes, I loved my beautiful 20 acre farm, heated barn and indoor arena but I love my little farm so much more!
I’m not going to tell you I don’t like nice things, but I am a lot more conscious now about what I spend my money on and what I bring into my home. I don’t just buy things to buy. I will choose experiences over possessions any day. I’m so thankful for what my journey has taught me up to this point in my life, and I want to encourage you on your path. I highly recommend having a support system in place because people will question you on your new ideas and think you’re crazy. If you are new to this journey, it can be very discouraging and really set you back. I’m here to tell you to keep foraging ahead. Simplicity is about the path less traveled, and it might not always be easy, but it will be worth it. POWER UP!
Words and the meaning we assign to them can be really tricky, especially in the English language. The power of words can make us feel fabulous and ready to take on the world or make us feel like we've been run over by a train.
The two words I want to focus on today are declutter and simplify. The word declutter can scare people. You want me to do what? If the word declutter sounds too daunting, and you feel tired or overwhelmed before you even get started, then choose another word that makes you feel energized and alive.
Personally, I love the word declutter! Give me some boxes and bags and I'll fill them at a moments notice. If you're a person who doesn't like the word declutter or you feel a negative charge around it, change it to simplify. I have a sign in my house with the word simplify on it. I bought it in 2007 before I was even on my quest to simplify. Usually our soul knows what we need years before we are even aware of it.
The word simplify to me feels light, happy, and relaxed. It allows me to be able to take a deep breath. The pictures that come to mind when I think of that word are a clear table, knowing where my keys are, a made bed, laundry put away, healthy food in my refrigerator, and traveling light with only my favorites.
If a word doesn't resonate with you choose a word that motivates you and makes you want to get up and feel inspired. Half of the things that make us not want to do something is the language we are using in our heads to ourselves that no one else hears. That's usually where the sabotage starts. Maybe it's a word or phrase you've said to yourself a thousand times. Next time you hear that familiar voice just simply notice and then replace it with a new word that is more empowering.
I'd love if you'd share a word that trips you up before you even get started and let's brainstorm a new word that inspires and energizes you from the very beginning. Or leave me a comment and tell me how you've changed a repeating word or phrase that used to set you back and what you've done to move forward in a more positive way. Here's to creating a life you love and the words we say to ourselves!
The other day I was at a coffee shop and out of the corner of my eye I spotted a cup with the phrase, "Do more of what makes you happy!" It's such a simple idea, but as I was standing in line ordering my coffee it made me smile! I started thinking, do more of what makes me happy. I thought if I was to compose a list what would it consist of?
I invite you get out a piece of paper and on the top of the paper write "Do More Of What Makes Me Happy." Take a minute today and jot down your list of what makes you happy and hang it somewhere that you'll see it often. Here is what my list looks like and what I will be doing more of that makes me happy.
As the barista called out, "order up" and I looked over at my mom waiting at the table, I smiled again. Still thinking about doing more of what makes me happy, I realized I was doing just that. My mom and I had taken a Saturday to spend some girl time together and stopped for a cup of java and I was doing more of what makes me happy in that given moment. The little bits of happiness throughout our day and week add up. When we are doing more of what makes us happy we then bring joy and happiness to others lives as well. It truly is the simple things in life that make us smile and the memories we make doing them. Here is to creating a life you love and doing more of what makes you happy!
Leave me a comment and tell me what your list looks like. We need more happy:)
Asking for what we need, what a novel concept. Many times there are little things we need in life that would make all the difference. An hour to do your hobby undisturbed. Thirty minutes to go for a run. A cup of coffee with your beloved. A nourishing salad at dinner. A hug. A couple hours to be home alone. A nap (my husband's personal favorite). A day off from your job to play hookie with your kiddos. A three day weekend to yourself to get rejuvenated.
The problem is we don't ask. We don't say anything. We stay silent. Maybe we think it's unheard of to ask for what would do our body and soul some good. Or maybe we think people should be able to read our minds. Some where in our belief system we were conditioned to think asking for what we needed was rude or selfish. My family needs me. My kid needs me. I'm here to tell you, you need you! Your family and friends need you to be charged up. When we can come from that place, then we are more patient and present with those we love.
Be gentle with yourself. People learn how to treat us by how we treat ourselves. When you're running with very little fuel in your tank you are coming from a place of lack. I don't want to see you on the side of the road because you ran out of gas. You can't push yourself to keep going from a place where you feel depleted because sooner or later it will catch up with you. It may be in the form of illness, weight gain, anxiety or depression.
Push pause. Be bold. Be brave. It takes courage to ask for what you need but it also takes practice. If you have a partner, friend or parent that can help you when you need that extra hour, practice asking them. Then you can reciprocate when they need to ask you as well. Sometimes, it's just saying to your child mommy really needs an hour of quiet time. Can you watch Barney quietly? You might only get 30 minutes. At least you asked and your're leading by example and teaching your child to ask for what they need. Coming from a humble place rather than coming from a place of impatience and exhaustion.
Let's practice this together. Ask for what we need and take some time out to recharge yourself. Your family and friends will thank you, but most importantly you will feel so much more empowered. Your cup will be filled up and overflowing, instead of a cup half empty. If more people did this we would be less stressed and live life with a little more intention.