Asking for what we need, what a novel concept. Many times there are little things we need in life that would make all the difference. An hour to do your hobby undisturbed. Thirty minutes to go for a run. A cup of coffee with your beloved. A nourishing salad at dinner. A hug. A couple hours to be home alone. A nap (my husband's personal favorite). A day off from your job to play hookie with your kiddos. A three day weekend to yourself to get rejuvenated.
The problem is we don't ask. We don't say anything. We stay silent. Maybe we think it's unheard of to ask for what would do our body and soul some good. Or maybe we think people should be able to read our minds. Some where in our belief system we were conditioned to think asking for what we needed was rude or selfish. My family needs me. My kid needs me. I'm here to tell you, you need you! Your family and friends need you to be charged up. When we can come from that place, then we are more patient and present with those we love.
Be gentle with yourself. People learn how to treat us by how we treat ourselves. When you're running with very little fuel in your tank you are coming from a place of lack. I don't want to see you on the side of the road because you ran out of gas. You can't push yourself to keep going from a place where you feel depleted because sooner or later it will catch up with you. It may be in the form of illness, weight gain, anxiety or depression.
Push pause. Be bold. Be brave. It takes courage to ask for what you need but it also takes practice. If you have a partner, friend or parent that can help you when you need that extra hour, practice asking them. Then you can reciprocate when they need to ask you as well. Sometimes, it's just saying to your child mommy really needs an hour of quiet time. Can you watch Barney quietly? You might only get 30 minutes. At least you asked and your're leading by example and teaching your child to ask for what they need. Coming from a humble place rather than coming from a place of impatience and exhaustion.
Let's practice this together. Ask for what we need and take some time out to recharge yourself. Your family and friends will thank you, but most importantly you will feel so much more empowered. Your cup will be filled up and overflowing, instead of a cup half empty. If more people did this we would be less stressed and live life with a little more intention.